STIGMA – And Mental Illness

What is stigma?

When someone appears to be different than us, we may view him or her in a negative stereotyped manner.  People who have identities that society values negatively are said to be stigmatized.

Stigma is a reality for people with a mental illness, and they report that how others judge them is one of their greatest barriers to a complete and satisfying life.  Society feels uncomfortable about mental illness. It is not seen like other illnesses such as heart disease and cancer.

Due to inaccuracies and misunderstandings, people have been led to believe that an individual with a mental illness has a weak character or is inevitably dangerous.  Mental illness can be called the invisible illness.  Often, the only way to know whether someone has been diagnosed with a mental illness is if they tell you.  The majority of the public is unaware of how many mentally ill people they know and encounter every day.  One in five people will experience a mental illness at some point in his or her lifetime and mental illness affects people of all ages, in all kinds of jobs and at all educational levels.

Why does stigma surround mental illness?

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This may be of assistance as you journey through my blog…


Problems and misfortunes are a part of life. Everyone experiences unhappiness, and many people may become depressed temporarily when things don’t go as they would like. Experiences of failure commonly result in temporary feelings of worthlessness and self-blame, while personal losses cause feelings of sadness, disappointment and emptiness. Such feelings are normal, and they usually pass after a short time. This is not the case with depressive illness.

What are the signs of depressive illness?

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Welcome – Glad you could join me

This site Living In Stigma is dedicated to those individuals living with mental illness, affecting them most deeply along with their spouses, family and friends.

Many forms of mental illness take their shape in Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Schizophrenia and other disorders including Anorexia Nervosa and Bulimia just to name a few.  A major note is that mental illness is neither one’s fault nor a character flaw, however, we unfortunately  live in a society laced with Stigma.

Migraine ~ it’s not just a regular headache…

This has been a dreadful few weeks for me and my migraine headaches.  I live in the sweltering, humid part of Canada, which not only causes crankiness but misery to my poor head.  Weather changes are my triggers.

I’ve posted previously about my 40 year struggle with these crappy recurring headaches, and I’ll do anything to prevent a trip to the hospital emergency for an IV drip to end the agony.  The waits are lengthy (8-12 hours), torturous and almost always have some nitwit beside me who wants to chit chat.  Leave me be, please!  I hung on though for 10 endless migraine filled days, swapping ice packs and suffering with even the sound of the air-conditioner driving me ‘around the bend’.  So, I surrendered and made the trip to the ER.

Luck would have me this visit, in and out of there in only 4 hours by the time the meds worked, and I was home by 3:00 a.m.  But, elation soon ended; by 10:00 a.m. the next morning the migraine returned.  My neurologist prescribed yet an additional med to block the migraine, also explaining the migraine med (Relpax) won’t work if you have a severe migraine over 3 days.  Useful to know, now I won’t waste my $16 (per pill) in future.

Conclusion:  It’s still very humid (35C), and I’m still cranky, BUT no headaches for three days!  I’m being optimistic.


Little Girl

Originally posted on Facing the Predator:


Hey little girl, I saw you with that man

what were you doing, letting him have his way

didn’t you know it was wrong, why didn’t you stop it?

you could have said no, but you still let it happen

what’s wrong with you?  how could you not know?


I tried to say no, he was bigger than me

yet he made me feel wanted, and special for once

I was his “princess” and he said I “danced like an angel”

and I was invisible to everyone else

even though it hurt, it was worth the warm feelings

that I craved so much, and he granted me so lovingly

but then came anguish and pain


Finally, I did try to tell, but no one would listen

the words came out, yet no words were heard

no one will really know

that my mind and my heart

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As long as my collar bone sticks out, that’s all I care about (part 1)

My mind lied to me, it told me if ever I achieved my target weight of 135 lbs, I would finally be happy, life would forever change and for once in my life I would look magnificent.  Yes, that huge desiring as I lay in my bed at night, glare at my closet of clothes and upon waking up the next morning all of the sizes would say “12” instead of “24”.  I’d always been a fatty and once weighed way over the 250 mark.

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This “Everything Happens for a Reason” crap

I think about this statement often and it pisses me to no end.  What precisely does it mean, and why do people say it?  Does it mean when there is a world disaster, a school shooting, childhood sexual abuse, serial murderers and rapists, riots, war veterans killed or any other horrible occurrence, it happened for a reason?  Please explain.

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Warrior Child Award

I received both membership into the “Mental Health Writers Guild” this week for my blog and also became aware and accepted an award that I have never heard of called “Warrior Child Award”.

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